A few months back I wrote about finding a balance with all my goals, and I wanted to share how that’s going and what I’m learning.
Broke McAlary says the goal isn’t finding balance, but tilting. She describes the concept more in her books (Destination Simple and Slow) and on her podcast Slow Your Home. Now, I admit, I haven’t read the books, I only heard her on a podcast talk once about this concept, but it’s so so good, I had to share it.
Here’s the idea–don’t try to balance everything in your life. Not everything is going to get equal attention. Instead, if something is more important one day, or one week, or one month than tilt toward that and focus in. You’ll get more done if you give yourself permission to focus your energy on one thing.
Seriously, this concept blew my mind! I’ve been struggling lately to fit everything in. Instead of forcing myself to make progress on all my goals everyday, I needed to step back and look at what I could accomplish in a week or a month. Because each single day can look a lot differently. I can be pursuing one goal today, but that doesn’t mean I’m slacking on my other goals. I’m just tilting.
Lately I’ve been planning my week out ahead of time. And not just my work week. For years I’ve planned my work week and what I’d be working on each day of the week. But I’ve never carried that into my personal life. I would just decide as I was going what I would do next. Almost as if I was reacting to life.
I blogged before about the concept of decision fatigue and how planning things ahead of time helps you take action instead of wasting time deciding what to do. I used to waste so much time deciding what to do. Or worse yet, get stressed out thinking of everything I had to do and end up choosing to push it all aside and do nothing. Just delaying and prolonging my stress.
Not any more. Now I have a notepad with each day of the week written out and I have only one, two or maybe three things written for each AM and PM. This gives me direction, it gives me focus, and it helps me tilt.
By accomplishing one thing today it gives you more time tomorrow to tilt toward something else. So rather than trying to get a little bit of lots of things done in one day, zoom out and view your whole week. You’ll see things much more accurately. Sure you didn’t read every day, you didn’t clean the house every day, you didn’t work on your online class every day, you didn’t call your parents every day. But did you do each of those things at least once this week?
This is a freeing concept–knowing I don’t have to get it all done in one day. On the flip side, you better believe I’m doing something everyday to move myself toward my goals. But now I can be realistic, look at the bigger picture, and focus on one or two important things each day.
Right now the bigger picture for me means training for a half marathon is only getting three or four days of my week. Which I admit as a runner is very difficult. Serious training involves running every day, doing workouts, abs, lifting weights, etc. But right now it’s not as important to me as reading, taking classes, learning, and working on my freelance job.
For now, I’m tilting away from running. And that’s GOOD! I can still work toward my goal of getting back in shape, just at a different rate because it’s not as important. Instead of making myself feel guilty about being “lazy” about my training I can say I’ll run tomorrow, but today I need to focus on something else. And then I actually will run tomorrow, because it’s on my weekly schedule!
Ya’ll. This is so helpful. If you ever feel like you have too many goals. Like you don’t even want to sleep because you want to chase these goals, I wish I could talk to you right now. Being a driven person is so much fun. It’s a blessing really. But it doesn’t come without its fair share of disappointment.
I let myself down constantly by having unrealistic expectations of what can be done in a single day. But honestly, that’s a good thing too. It means I’ll never be satisfied with just sitting in front of a TV for hours again, it means I’ll always find ways to improve, and it means I’m going to live a life I’m truly thrilled about living.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again–if this post resonated with you. If you’re HUNGRY. And you want to check off your goals like you’re reading off a packing list (check, check, check!) then please reach out to me. I would love nothing more than to walk with you. I firmly believe when driven people team up, stuff gets done. Accountability is where it’s at. So get ahold of me.
There’s life to be lived,